You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! (2023): Cast & Ratings
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! is a 2023 comedy directed by Sammi Cohen, starring Sunny Sandler as Stacy Friedman, Samantha Lorraine and Idina Menzel. It runs 1 hour 43 minutes. Critics gave it 91% on Rotten Tomatoes and 71 on Metacritic, and IMDb users rate it 5.9/10.
- Released
- Runtime
- 1h 43m (103 min)
- Director
- Sammi Cohen
- Genre
- Comedy
- Original language
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English
- Studio
- Netflix
- After the credits
- No No extra scene
What Is You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! About?
The premise of You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! without spoilers. The whole story and the ending explained are in the plot summary further down.
Two best friends, Stacy and Lydia, eagerly anticipate the unforgettable night of Stacy’s Bat Mitzvah. However, the excitement is challenged as adolescent drama and a charming new boy complicate their close friendship. The experience leads them on a humorous and relatable journey of self-discovery, navigating the ups and downs of growing up and learning the true meaning of friendship.
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! Themes & Keywords
· 50 tags- young girl
- bat mitzvah
- jewish
- coming of age
- unravel
- jewess
- young boy
- young
- middle school
- school
- student
- long title
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- coming of age drama
- teen comedy
- boy
- bar mitzvah
- kissing mirror
- reference to new york yankees
- synagogue
- reference to taylor swift
- looking for a lost item
- deejay
- reference to olivia rodrigo
- reference to beyonce
- reference to lady gaga
- reference to billie eilish
- reference to paul mccartney
- reference to hailey bieber
- stress ball
- facial mask
- reference to walmart
- reference to coachella
- lost earring
- hit on the head with a soccer ball
- cliff diving
- reference to sour patch kids
- twizzler
- reference to bathsheba
- title spoken in dialogue
- reference to tiktok
- treadmill desk
- gatorade
- queef
- reference to journey the band
- reference to genesis the band
- reference to mcdonald's
- reference to uber
- jigsaw puzzle
- reference to the misfits the band
- reference to call of duty
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! Cast & Characters
Sunny Sandler leads the cast as Stacy Friedman, with Samantha Lorraine as Lydia Rodriguez Katz and Idina Menzel as Bree Friedman. Directed by Sammi Cohen; 10 actors are credited in all.
- Director Sammi Cohen
- Sunny Sandler as Stacy Friedman
- Samantha Lorraine as Lydia Rodriguez Katz
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Idina Menzel as Bree Friedman - Dylan Hoffman as Andy Goldfarb
Also Starring in You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah!
· 6 more- Adam Sandler Danny Friedman
- Sadie Sandler Ronnie Friedman
- Sarah Sherman Rabbi Rebecca
- Jackie Sandler Gabi Rodriguez Katz
- Ido Mosseri DJ Schmuley
- Dan Bulla Cantor Jerry
More from Sammi Cohen
One more film directed by Sammi Cohen: Crush.
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! Reviews & Ratings
Critics gave You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! 91% on Rotten Tomatoes and 71 on Metacritic, and IMDb users rate it 5.9/10. Our Echo Score gives it 65/100, strongest in character & emotion (70) and weakest in story & flow (60).
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! Echo Score Breakdown
In summary, the film lands in the middle of the critical spectrum, receiving modest approval from reviewers while polarizing audience reactions. Critics commend its fresh take on teenage friendships and competent direction, yet note its conventional plot. Some viewers admire the performances and soundtrack, whereas others describe it as formulaic and cringe‑inducing. The net impression is that the movie offers an agreeable, if unremarkable, family‑friendly experience that may appeal to fans of light‑hearted coming‑of‑age stories.
Our own 0–100 rating, built from five aspects: art, character, story, the sensory experience and how well a film rewatches.
- Art & Craft 65
In terms of art and craft, the direction by Sammi Cohen is noted as a fresh but conventional approach, with competent cinematography that captures the suburban setting without bold stylistic choices. Editing maintains a steady rhythm, supporting the narrative flow. Overall, the technical execution is solid yet unexceptional.
- Character & Emotion 70
Regarding character and emotion, the young cast delivers nuanced performances, with Sunny Sandler receiving particular commendation for her natural charisma. Chemistry between the two best friends feels authentic, and Adam Sandler provides a restrained supporting presence. While some reviewers find the adult roles under‑developed, the primary characters resonate sufficiently.
- Story & Flow 60
In the realm of story and flow, the plot follows a familiar coming‑of‑age trajectory centered on rival crushes and bat mitzvah preparations. Critics acknowledge clever dialogue but also cite predictability and formulaic beats. Pacing remains steady, though occasional tonal shifts feel uneven, resulting in an overall competent yet uninspired narrative.
- Sensory Experience 65
Evaluating sensory experience, the soundtrack blends contemporary pop tracks that appeal to the target teen audience, enhancing several key moments. Sound design is serviceable, and visual styling stays true to the modest production values of a family‑oriented comedy. The overall sensory package is pleasant but lacks distinctive flair.
- Rewatch Factor 65
Assessing rewatch factor, the film’s light humor and relatable teenage dynamics provide a modest incentive for repeat viewings, especially among younger audiences. Some viewers find the energy and soundtrack compelling enough to return, while others deem the content too predictable or cringeworthy to merit another watch. Consequently, its replay value remains moderate.
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IMDb 5.9 /10
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Rotten Tomatoes 91% Tomatometer
Popcornmeter 60%
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Metacritic 71 Metascore
User score 4.8
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TMDB 65% User score
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Letterboxd 2.5 /5
246411 ratings
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You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! Plot Summary & Ending Explained
What happens in You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! from start to finish, spoilers included, with a timeline of 12 key events and the ending explained. The opening is below; the full summary is a 3-minute read.
Spoilers ahead
Stacy Friedman is an exuberant young girl eagerly anticipating her bat mitzvah, dreaming of sharing the moment with her best friend, Lydia Rodriguez Katz, and securing a dance with her crush, Andy Goldfarb. However, her excitement leads to tension with her parents, Bree Friedman and Danny Friedman, who have their own ideas for a “perfect” celebration that Stacy believes is crucial for her future. With the help of her supportive older sister, Ronnie Friedman, Stacy navigates the ups and downs of teenage life.
Full summary
The whole story of You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah!, scene by scene, with the ending explained
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! Trailers & Videos
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How Well Do You Know You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah!?
10 questions about the story, each with a hint if you get stuck. Pick an answer to see whether you were right.
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You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! Also Known As
25 alternative titles, including “我绝对不会邀请你参加我的成人礼” and “את מה זה לא מוזמנת לבת מצווה שלי”.
- Also known as
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- 我绝对不会邀请你参加我的成人礼
- את מה זה לא מוזמנת לבת מצווה שלי
- Ni de coña estás invitada a mi bat mitsvá
- Você Não Tá Convidada pro Meu Bat Mitzvá!
- Tu peux oublier ma bat-mitsva !
- 내 성인식에 절대 오지 마!
- Du bist sowas von nicht zu meiner Bat-Mizwa eingeladen
- Nie jesteś zaproszona na moją bat micwę
- Тебе не запрошено на мою бат-міцву
- Non sei invitata al mio bat mitzvah
- บัทมิซวาห์ฉัน อย่าได้ฝันว่าจะชวนเธอ
- את מה-זה לא מוזמנת לבת מצווה שלי
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- Ne merészelj eljönni a bát micvámra
- 别幻想来我的成年礼
- Rozhodně nejsi zvaná na mou bat micvu!
- Bat Mitzvah'ıma Kesinlikle Davetli Değilsin
- ¡No estás invitada a mi bat Mitzvah!
- Nem Penses Que Te Vou Convidar Para o Meu Bat Mitzvah
- Cậu Đừng Hòng Được Mời Đến Bat Mitzvah
- 我的成年禮誠摯不邀你
- Να Μην Έρθεις στο Μπατ Μιτσβά Μου
- И не подумай прийти на мою бат-мицву
- Nisi pozvana na moju bat micvu
- Tu nekviečiamas į mano Bat Mitzvah
- 成人禮咪亂嚟
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You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! FAQ: Cast & Runtime
Runtime, release date, director, cast, ratings and post-credit scenes of You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah!, each answered in a sentence.
How long is You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah!?
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! runs 1 hour 43 minutes (103 minutes).
When was You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! released?
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! was released on August 25, 2023.
Who directed You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah!?
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! was directed by Sammi Cohen.
More films by Sammi Cohen Who is in the cast of You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah!?
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! stars Sunny Sandler as Stacy Friedman, Samantha Lorraine as Lydia Rodriguez Katz and Idina Menzel as Bree Friedman, among 10 credited actors.
How is You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! rated?
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! has 5.9/10 on IMDb, 91% on Rotten Tomatoes, 71 on Metacritic and 65% on TMDB.
Does You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! have a post-credit scene?
No. You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah! has no extra scene during or after the credits.
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