It Was Him or Us 1995

One night in a small town, Peggy [Ann Jillian] Pomeroy and her daughter Carrie [Monique Lanier] Wilson decide to leave Peggy’s abusive husband, Buddy. As they try to drive away, Buddy frantically begs Peggy to forgive him and asks Carrie to open the door, but Peggy stays firm and points a gun at him, declaring that he must stay away from them. The act sets a quiet, tense tone for what follows, underscoring a resolve born from years of fear and a need to protect their future.

Eighteen years pass, and Peggy [Ann Jillian] is living in Salt Lake City with her new husband, Walter [Richard Masur], and their two sons, Stevie [David Gallagher] (now 10) and Jesse [Spencer Treat Clark] (now 8). Carrie [Monique Lanier] is an adult and a single mother to a 5-year-old granddaughter named Jenna, living with Peggy and Walter while yearning for companionship and partnership. Carrie applies for a job at a construction site and meets Gene Shepard [Richard Grieco], a handsome, seemingly kind young construction worker who asks her out. When the date arrives, the family’s cautious warmth is on display; they appear supportive, though Peggy quietly wishes Gene had called first. Carrie lights up with optimism and, in a shared impulsive moment, the pair decide they’re meant for each other, a spark that soon deepens into something more intense.

Their romance accelerates quickly. A party at a bar becomes a test of Gene’s temperament: he dismisses Carrie’s friends, follows her inside, and unleashes a sudden, brutal outburst that ends with a violent confrontation. The bar manager ejects him, and later, a tense moment outside Carrie’s home escalates when Gene lashes out again, smashing the windshield and prompting Carrie to defend him or herself in the moment of chaos. Peggy confronts Gene with a wary warning, while Carrie reluctantly blames her mother for stirring trouble in their lives. The tension sharpens as Gene’s continuous anger and possessiveness raise red flags about his capacity for control and violence.

After a period of manipulative apologies and false promises, Carrie decides to move in with Gene and his mother Maggie [Bette Ford], who greets the idea with a quiet practicality. The arrangement initially seems stable as Gene presents himself as a capable partner and future husband, but cracks soon begin to widen. The pair’s relationship is tested in the park when Gene tries to call Carrie and she tunes him out, and later at home when his anger erupts again. The police are called, Gene is jailed, and Peggy and Walter return to their life with the boys, hoping perhaps that Carrie can see the danger more clearly now.

Carrie visits Gene in jail, trying to understand the hold he still has on her, but the violence returns when Gene attacks their surroundings and hurts Scottie [Wil Wheaton], a friend who had tried to help Carrie see the truth. This brutal act becomes a turning point: Carrie recognizes that Gene is a violent, irredeemable man and makes a firm choice to end things for good, despite lingering fear and the memory of what she once hoped for.

As events spiral, Carrie finds herself caught between fear and resolve, and she leans on the strength of family. One weekend, Gene arrives at the house with the intention of forcing his way back into Carrie’s life, and a deadly confrontation becomes unavoidable. The couple’s household becomes a battlefield as the police coordinate a response, with Lt. Washington [Lorraine Toussaint] guiding the operation and the two boys, Jesse and Stevie, helping their sister by alerting authorities and seeking safety.

The situation crescendos as Walter is briefly drawn into the danger, and Peggy decides to act in defense of her daughter and grandchildren. In a desperate, decisive act, Peggy sneaks into the basement to retrieve Walter’s gun, and Carrie refuses to be drawn into Gene’s fantasy of an “afterlife” union. Peggy enters the room, takes aim, and as the tension peaks, she fires five shots that end Gene’s threat. The dawn reveals the aftermath: Walter and Gene are dead, while Peggy and Carrie step into the light of a new morning with their children and Jenna safely by their side. The police assure Peggy that Walter will be all right, acknowledging how close she came to losing her life, and Peggy offers a hard-won, defining truth in a quiet, unforgettable way: “When it comes to your kids, you have to do what you have to do.” Maggie’s heart aches for the cost of protection, but the family’s bond endures, and they return to rebuild their lives together.