Consenting Adults 1992

Tess and Ken Lynd have spent 26 years building their life together, raising two children along the way. Their daughter, Margie, is about to become a mother herself, while their son, Jeff, is stepping into his college years as the captain of the swim team. However, beneath this seemingly idyllic family exterior lies a complicated tangle of emotions and relationships. The bond between Jeff and his parents has always been fraught with tension, especially with his father, whose penchant for nitpicking often led to fiery clashes. After more than two decades of silence, Tess receives an unanticipated letter from Jeff, urging her to reconnect and explore the turmoil he has been harboring.

During their meeting, Jeff shares a revelation that will change everything: he is gay. Although Tess admires her son’s bravery, she struggles to accept this new reality. This prompts her to seek counsel from Dr. Mark Waldo, the family doctor, and later, psychiatrist Dr. Daniels in Seattle. The reassurance that 25% of his patients have successfully changed their sexual orientation intensifies Tess’s determination to help her son “see the error of his ways.” Ken’s emotional response, when Tess confides in him about Jeff, is unexpected; he is brought to tears, revealing a depth of feeling that contrasts sharply with his usual stoicism.

As Jeff navigates this emotionally charged season, he discusses his seven-year internal battle over his sexual identity with Dr. Daniels. Despite his therapy, progress proves elusive and leads him back home, where he finds his father’s avoidance disheartening. A dinner talk with Tess brings him some comfort, but Ken’s refusal to accept Jeff’s truth serves as a painful reminder of the family’s unresolved issues.

As the night continues, Tess confronts Ken regarding his reluctance to address their son’s situation. Ken’s strong belief that homosexuality is “unnatural” and his disdain for liberal views only deepen the rift between him and Jeff. Feeling completely alienated, Jeff ultimately decides to leave, feeling abandoned by his family.

In his loneliness, Jeff crosses paths with Hank, a fellow diner patron who immediately engages his interest. Jeff is drawn to Hank’s warmth and kindness, leading to an invitation for a drive that Jeff initially hesitates to accept. However, Hank’s affectionate nature soon envelops Jeff in a sense of security he has desperately needed, marking a pivotal moment in his journey.

As Jeff’s Christmas break nears its end, he attempts to ignite romantic feelings with neighbor Sue, but soon realizes that his feelings for her are as temporary as a fleeting winter gust. This moment of clarity signals the beginning of a significant transformation as he confronts his parents about discontinuing treatment with Dr. Daniels. He boldly asserts that his sexual orientation is not a condition to be fixed, which prompts an intense conversation that ends with Ken cutting off Jeff financially, having reached his limit of tolerance.

Jeff’s story continues to evolve, particularly after witnessing a hate crime at a diner, inspiring him to stand up against the attackers with profound resolve. Following this act of bravery, he comes out to Pete, his close friend and roommate, only to be met with hurtful homophobia, causing Jeff to reassess their friendship and seek comfort with a new love interest, Stu.

Heartbreak strikes when Ken suffers a stroke, leaving an enduring impact of unresolved feelings in his wake. At his funeral, Tess reveals a moving letter penned by her late husband, shedding light on his struggles to understand Jeff’s sexuality. Although Ken acknowledges his challenges in fully accepting his son’s identity, he reaffirms his unwavering love and commitment as a father.

As Tess confronts the intricacies of acceptance, she finds herself at a crossroads between her affection for Jeff and her discomfort with aspects of his lifestyle. Ultimately, she reaches out to him, expressing her feelings in a touching display of maternal love and sincere understanding, bridging the gap that had separated them for so long.